Thursday, January 14, 2010

Miscarriage and Avatar

Hi Ladies:

The movie, Avatar, that I saw last night inspired me to continue with my blog for you. Without telling you the whole story, I will mention that the Avatar main hero in the movie fought for what he felt was the right thing to do. For himself and for the people. As a true leader, mythological hero.

He went onto a mission with a particular intention and when he received more information he was able to then transform in a way that enabled him to make a different decision about what was right for him.

Spiritual aspect of this belief is undeniable.

You can choose to live your life for your own fulfillment. And this is fine too.  Finding peace for your own soul is a life time endeavour for many of us.

Now I am talking about doing things for the people, as a contribution to the life in the Universe.

Consider your life part of the liquid flow of the life of all living beings. Then it becomes increasingly clear how important for the rest of us are your own personal growing and taking responsibility for your life choices.

Putting miscarriage behind you and learning to go on is an important way to getting to having your baby.

In fact it is the only way, and the faster it happens the better.

Some moms say they want to try to cope on their own, see what happens in a few months, try to "deal" with their emotions for a while, etc.

Notice the indefinite action intention here in the word TRY.

Some go deeper into grief as time goes on. Learning to live the new story now - I lost my pregnancy, I am a failure.  My body malfunctioned. What now?

Inspiring the sadness in themselves and their body, while thinking, watching or noticing a pregnant woman, envying every pregnant woman, doubting herself.

Indulging in sadness around pregnancy. Withdrawing from life. Feeling inadequate. Afraid to connect.

Indulgence in such ways is a dangerous activity in every aspect of it.

Dangerous, because the longer we go, acclimating with the sensations of sadness and grief in our bodies, in relation to pregnancy, the more firmly our body responds to triggers to that sadness in relation to pregnancy. In other words, more sadness flows in with activities associated with pregnancy: making love,  watching a movie about family, seeing other families, even eating dinner together with husband becomes a highlight of that internal emotion.

Instead of such indulgence and growing sense of inadequacy, STOP. Follow me into a great exercise that will open doors to your new pregnancy in your body, creating possibilities for your body to produce more eggs, to become fertile and pregnant again, easily with very little effort on your part.

All you have to do is follow me here to find that feeling that will help you create your new pregnancy.

A grieving ex-mom called for help.

A few deep breathing exercises quickly calmed her,  relaxed and helped her positive attitude, allowed her to begin to re-create her state of what she reported like, being in the flow, at her best, when she could not put her foot down wrong, all from a position of opportunity.

She began relevant exercises and worked with our guidance on the regular basis. We helped her get pregnant again. She is 43 years old and about to birth her first baby. I can't help sharing the radiant look in her eyes, that last time I saw her.

Her commitment to herself was strong. As we worked along together, some of her beliefs were challenged, some of her life had changed as a result of her commitment.

And the benefit is obvious, though, she is no longer sad.

Another woman, Olga, 39, came to me recently, I have only worked with her for a few months, she was very opinionated, yet spiritual. Her spiritual soul had uncovered more strength for her body to commit to change in attitude and belief, and to decide to consciously commit to being herself. Like Avatar, she began to fight for what is right for her.

What do you want? What are you willing to do to have that? What do you want to commit to?

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