Miscarriage and Life the Life You Want

I received a letter in response to my previous post from someone who experienced extensive losses. For some reason the posting of that letter directly onto the blog did not work. I will respond to this letter through this blog now.

The author was alerting me that my post seemed upfront and "insensitive" to her in her grieving process.

Let me respond. There is no disrespect intended to anyone. Secondly, I realize that if you have any kind of a response you probably are still grieving, and experiencing inner resistance to my words.  I don't address this to any particular person in any particular case, all private work is done personally one-on-one. Whereas all of the audiences' concerns are actual and valid, my intent is to remind all of you that the power of your mind is enormous. "When you have the right conception you will conceive." Direct your thoughts and intentions forward toward what you want.  This is a discussion of the position you can choose to take, a choice you make and not an advice of any kind. This is all there is to say in a nutshell.

I am a hypnotherapist and I work with fertility issues, as well as safe, comfortable and intended birthing of that baby. I work with people who are wiling and able to put their discord behind them and want my help to bring their life to the next level, where they can experience the exquisite life of their intent, not just a mediocre existence. I have consistent success with conception. But this work is not for everyone. It is a very exclusive, intent work only for those who  indeed want to experience extraordinary.

My post was directed to some of my clients as well as for all who are interested. I am glad it stirs up the thinking. If an expression of my opinion, as well as the line of my work is interesting to you, let me know, and we can meet for further discussion. In no way these posts can be considered medical advice. I am  merely suggesting a consideration and change in thought.

Transformational change is the primary direction with my work. It may include shaking your beliefs and myths about yourself. I often emphasize that where you put your attention there you get results. Whereas I sympathyze with your losses, defeats and disappointments, judging from your post, you are a strong person, with determined character, and a will to succeed in having the life that you want. You know exactly what you want. I can see that. Here I am suggesting that you will be able to have what you want when you put your attention to it, all that from the position of opportunity not from the position of lack. Position of opportunity, not a position of lack. Then your life unfolds surprises, including divine timing and soul connection with your baby, lessons learned and peace found from it.

Last month I went overseas to teach spiritual classes to groups of people who lost their loved ones. We spoke on souls connection and lessons learned. Each individual then had a spiritual personal connection with their loved one, and in a state of higher consciousness received channeled answers from their loved ones contributing to learning their lessons. Spiritual soul connection and integration of lessons is tightly connected with loss of loved ones. The group then worked with the intent of creating the outcome for the group and for each individual so the future becomes present.

I believe that we are all connected. And when we realize this connection, learn about the past, and make decisions about the future, we begin to move forward, not backward. This is how the process of living the life is organized.  Each person takes as much time as needed for them to process what they feel is important to them. Grieving, coping can take years and become a habit.  All I do is just remind you of that natural process of life learning and moving on.

I will see that your thoughts get posted, as well as any replies to this message.

With Love and Light,

Morrin

Miscarriage and Avatar

Hi Ladies:

The movie, Avatar, that I saw last night inspired me to continue with my blog for you. Without telling you the whole story, I will mention that the Avatar main hero in the movie fought for what he felt was the right thing to do. For himself and for the people. As a true leader, mythological hero.

He went onto a mission with a particular intention and when he received more information he was able to then transform in a way that enabled him to make a different decision about what was right for him.

Spiritual aspect of this belief is undeniable.

You can choose to live your life for your own fulfillment. And this is fine too.  Finding peace for your own soul is a life time endeavour for many of us.

Now I am talking about doing things for the people, as a contribution to the life in the Universe.

Consider your life part of the liquid flow of the life of all living beings. Then it becomes increasingly clear how important for the rest of us are your own personal growing and taking responsibility for your life choices.

Putting miscarriage behind you and learning to go on is an important way to getting to having your baby.

In fact it is the only way, and the faster it happens the better.

Some moms say they want to try to cope on their own, see what happens in a few months, try to "deal" with their emotions for a while, etc.

Notice the indefinite action intention here in the word TRY.

Some go deeper into grief as time goes on. Learning to live the new story now - I lost my pregnancy, I am a failure.  My body malfunctioned. What now?

Inspiring the sadness in themselves and their body, while thinking, watching or noticing a pregnant woman, envying every pregnant woman, doubting herself.

Indulging in sadness around pregnancy. Withdrawing from life. Feeling inadequate. Afraid to connect.

Indulgence in such ways is a dangerous activity in every aspect of it.

Dangerous, because the longer we go, acclimating with the sensations of sadness and grief in our bodies, in relation to pregnancy, the more firmly our body responds to triggers to that sadness in relation to pregnancy. In other words, more sadness flows in with activities associated with pregnancy: making love,  watching a movie about family, seeing other families, even eating dinner together with husband becomes a highlight of that internal emotion.

Instead of such indulgence and growing sense of inadequacy, STOP. Follow me into a great exercise that will open doors to your new pregnancy in your body, creating possibilities for your body to produce more eggs, to become fertile and pregnant again, easily with very little effort on your part.

All you have to do is follow me here to find that feeling that will help you create your new pregnancy.

A grieving ex-mom called for help.

A few deep breathing exercises quickly calmed her,  relaxed and helped her positive attitude, allowed her to begin to re-create her state of what she reported like, being in the flow, at her best, when she could not put her foot down wrong, all from a position of opportunity.

She began relevant exercises and worked with our guidance on the regular basis. We helped her get pregnant again. She is 43 years old and about to birth her first baby. I can't help sharing the radiant look in her eyes, that last time I saw her.

Her commitment to herself was strong. As we worked along together, some of her beliefs were challenged, some of her life had changed as a result of her commitment.

And the benefit is obvious, though, she is no longer sad.

Another woman, Olga, 39, came to me recently, I have only worked with her for a few months, she was very opinionated, yet spiritual. Her spiritual soul had uncovered more strength for her body to commit to change in attitude and belief, and to decide to consciously commit to being herself. Like Avatar, she began to fight for what is right for her.

What do you want? What are you willing to do to have that? What do you want to commit to?

TO EAT OR NOT TO EAT ... PLACENTA ???

Most people never heard of ingesting placenta. Most people would look at you as if you are crazy if you mention ingesting placenta. But wait! let me introduce the latest research on ingesting placenta.

Do you want your breast milk to come out abundantly and easily for your baby?

Do you want your baby weight ease off your body quickly?

Do you want to have tons of energy to nurse your baby and take care of your family right after birthing?

And finally,

Do you want to have positive outlook and feel incredible bonding experience with your baby, instead of postpartum depression?

Find out how you too can be happy and healthy quickly and easily right after your baby's birth.

Placenta contains high levels of prostaglandin which stimulates uterus to get back to normal size quickly. Placenta also contains oxytocin which stimulates the muscles around the mammary cells to contract and eject milk. These levels of natural oxytocin add to your hormonal balance and help you feel happier and have a light positive outlook on life.

Mammals eat their youngs' placenta in full. All of it. Ewww! Remember that we are mammals. So it is only natural to ingest placenta, even though not in full, but a little bitty piece of it, about 0.5 cubic inch, raw.

How's that? Wow!

At least you don't have to eat all of it!

Still sounds bizzarre?

Now, let's explore.

I met this homebirth midwife of 20 years Jenny West, at last year's HypnoBirthing Conclave, where I got my liscense to teach HypnoBirthing to doulas and other birthing professionals.

She gave me her book about eating placenta, as I shared an experience I heard about from one of my HypnoBirthing student-moms, who ate a tiny piece of placenta right after its birth, raw, once. She told me she just tore a piece right off the big blob of the whole thing and swallowed it. She experienced her body temperature lowering soon, her breast milk coming after colostrum within a day, she felt consistantly happy and satisfied with her birth and baby being peacefully calm and healthy.

Jenny shared that it is a very healthy thing, to eat a piece of placenta. There is lots of lore about the placenta, Alaskan, Native American. It was considered a healthy way to start your postpartum and enjoy your baby long before the drugs have been invented that are currently used during and after birthing for various issues.

Her method is to ingest placenta dried and capsuled. She prepares the placenta in your home and leaves for you a capsuled daily dozage for your to take in a few times a day. Or you can choose to eat it once, right after birth, raw, or in a smoothie, and be done with it.

I know I mentioned it to one of my couples in class and they laughed at me thinking I am joking. Then they both backed up visibly and made a face.  I went on describing how the postpartum begins to be the best time of your life if you ingest  a piece of placenta, and then finally one mom said, "I will do it!", and then the other looked at her and said, "it does sound crazy, but yes, I want to do it too."

One mom tells her story as she initially froze her placenta for keeps. By the time her son was 6 weeks old, she was seriously lacking energy and sluggishly dragging herself around the house, doing her daily routine, depressed, and exhausted, she finally decided to defrost her placenta, dried it and encapsulated it and began to take them. On the third day she felt results and kept feeling more energized every day since.

It is your choice. It's your placenta.

Find out more, click here.
With questions contact Morrin Bass, at New York Awareness Center.

What's a Doula? Statistical research:

What's a Doula? Last year a met a woman who told me a story which starts a few years ago, when she was at a doctor's office, waiting for her appointment and was thumbing through magazines. In one of them she found an article about doula services. She said to herself: What's  a "doula"? Reading along she found out more about what doula does. She became interested. She came home and went on the internet. One thing led to another... So what's a doula? A doula is a labor support woman, a hand maiden. She aids a birthing laboring woman throughout the birth and stays with her the entire time of the birth (as many hours as the birth lasts). Doula understands physiology and gives emotional support to a woman in labor. Doula assists the woman and her partner in preparing the birth plan, and provides objective support.  Doula protects a woman's dignity, confidentiality and birth memories.

Doula in Greek means slave. Doula is a woman experienced in childbirth who provides continuous physical, emotional, and informational support to the mother before, during, and just after childbirth. Having a female support during labor has been proven to decrease discomfort, help prevent special circumstances and provide easy recovery, breast feeding and alleviate post partum depression. A HypnoBirthing doula is a great addition to the HypnoBirthing training you had, a person who keeps you on track with your scripts and practice of your birth breathing. So my heroine became a doula and quit her job of 20 years as an administrative officer in one of the universities in New York, and now passionate about assisting women in birthing their babies. She says, she finally found what she loves to do in life, after her own 3 children and 6 grandchildren, and never knowing about HypnoBirthing, she now has found new meaning to the words Take a Deep Breath and Relax. With Questions and for more information or for HypnoBirthing doulas contact information go to http://newyorkawareness.com/HypnobirthingNewYork.asp.

A Study of Hypnotizability in Pregnant Women

I reprint this article synopsis for your information:

As study was done to prove that hypnosis is effective for pregnant women.

The participation in the study showed that pregnant women are more "hypnotizable" then
non-pregnant......good news? 


Read about the effect of pregnancy on hypnotizability
http://www.hypnosisresearchinstitute.org/index.cfm/2009/10/2/The-effect\
-of-pregnancy-on-hypnotizability
Posted At : October 2, 2009  |
 
By : Tim Brunson, PhD
Related Categories: Child Birth
http://www.hypnosisresearchinstitute.org/index.cfm/Child-Birth

Hypnosis during pregnancy and childbirth has been shown to reduce labor
analgesia use and other medical interventions. 


We aimed to investigate whether there was a difference in hypnotizability in pregnant and
non-pregnant women. Study participants had hypnotizability measured by
the Creative Imagination Scale (CIS) in the third trimester of pregnancy
and subsequently between 14 and 28 months postpartum and when not
pregnant. 

The 37 participants who completed the study gave birth in the
largest maternity unit in South Australia between January 2006 and March
2007. CIS scores were increased in women when pregnant (Mean 23.5, SD
6.9) compared to when they were not pregnant (Mean 18.7, SD 6.6),
0.001. The mean effect size was 0.84 suggesting that the hypnotizability
change was both statistically significant and clinically meaningful. 


Our study findings support previous evidence showing that women are more
hypnotizable when pregnant than when not pregnant.
Am J Clin Hypn. 2009 Jul;52(1):13-22. Alexander B, Turnbull D, Cyna A.
Department of Women's Anaesthesia Women's & Children's Hospital, 72 King
William Road Adelaide, S.A. 5006, Australia.

For more information on work with Morrin Bass, click here; 

http://newyorkawareness.com.

The Importance of Practice, Part II

What a wonderful time allowing yourself to relax, just for few minutes, reading the part I of the post today, wasn't it?

Just before, I got a call from a new mother sharing her experience of birthing her baby. She just "had to tell me" that her practicing HypnoBirthing in class and at home paid off greatly.

Just because, she says, she practiced in the last few weeks before the birth, during labor she was able to stay calm and peaceful. I reminded her, how worried she was about keeping calm during her labor. She responded saying that her husband reminded her to stay focused, when she wandered away with her focus elsewhere.

Mom experienced her first strong uterine activity at 11pm, after a few weeks of on and off 'practice labor', during which she timed herself. The activity of surges repeated a few times each lasting about 40 seconds, and the time inbetween from 10 minutes to 7 minutes to 5 minutes. At 1am, she decided to call her midwife. And at 3 am, when the midwife arrived, she was already 8 cm, dilated.

The little girl was born after JUST another couple of hours of labor, around 5:30am, determined breathing and walking around the house. She walked while inbetween surges, and calmly found herself settling in a position on a couch, or on the toilet, on the arm chair, or in the kitchen, until she finally returned into her bed, where the birth took place. This was a home birth; assisting were just the husband and the midwife.

Baby came quickly and safely without pushing, just with a very focused J-breathing.

Promising to write about it more in detail, she told me that breathing and the husband's cool were the main highlights of her birth. She distinctly remembers that as soon as she thought of a glass of water he came offering her one, as soon as she thought of wanting to hear some soft music, or Rainbow relaxation, he was putting it on already.  This connection is not accidental. This was achieved by practicing together during the last few weeks before birth.

I remember this couple arriving to classes separately, from different places, and even not being able to complete some of the tasks in class because there was lack of agreement with each other. However, because they made a decision to practice, and came around to actually show up as a mature team working together on the birthing of their  baby, a new horizon of their life opened up and a new level of understanding without words, the new higher level of connection came to being.

Hope you enjoyed reading this story. Let me know your thoughts by commenting.

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With Love and Light,
Morrin

The Importance of Practice, Part I

In every Hypnobirthing class I teach, every time we meet, I remind mothers and fathers to practice hypnosis exercises together at home, in addition to the classroom time we have together.

It is a great experience for all three of you (including the unborn baby/babies) to bond and begin to experience each other in yet another way, in preparation to your life-long time together in person.

Not only is it a good way for all of you to bond, but also for the baby to get acquainted with the ways of the mother allowing the baby the time to develop in peace.

Mother notices how well she feels after a relaxation. She also notices that the baby kicks like crazy while she tries to relax. In response to the hypnotic relaxation the baby begins to move around and, finding mother at peace and sitting or laying, in a stable safe environment to try out the boundaries of space and his/her own baby muscles, stimulating survival mechanism of preparing for the birth. Allowing the baby this time is crucial especially in the last few weeks of pregnancy.

Here is a short relaxation for you. You can share it with your partner if he is around. While you are reading it, allow yourself to sit comfortably and slowly follow the words, placing your attention on each word, breathing deeply through your abdomen (into your baby!)

During this relaxation you will keep your eyes open.

There is no need to close your eyes now, you will read the text and follow my instruction and check in your body that you have completed it, and feel great, while keeping your focus on the words that you are reading.

Take a deep breath into your abdomen, on the count of 4 and slowly exhale on the count of 8.
1,2,3,4
Out
1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8

Are you sitting comfortably? Uncross your legs.

Again Inhale
1,2,3,4

Out

1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8

and another one:

Inhale

1,2,3,4

Out

1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8

Continue with breathing normally, and begin to count your breaths. Count to 25 breaths.

Count now, 1 inhale-exhale, 2 inhale-exhale....

....and begin to check for the comfort in each part of your body.....

4....

Deep breath....

First your forehead, then your chin, then you shoulders,

5,6,7......

Your shoulders sag, melt, drop your shoulders down,

Still counting?? ......9,10.....

Counting breaths.....

11,12,13...

Shoulders relax, relax your arms, the right one and the left one, chest, your abdomen, your uterus ....

18,19....

Legs, thighs, knees, toes....

Feel the tingling in your toes.

Notice that you mind relaxes too. As you begin to stare at the words longer.

... 23,24,25.

So allow yourself to stop reading and relax for a minute or so. After that you will re-emerge all by yourself, because you have the well working internal clock, while feeling relaxed and energized to continue with your day in the most productive way, feeling great about yourself.

Re-emerge Relaxed and Energized.
With Love and Light.