Pregnancy affirmations for you

AFFIRMATIONS for a smooth and comfortable birth:

Repeat from several time out loud placing your attention on each word.


I am a great mother.

I love my pregnancy.

I love my body.

I love my baby.

I love my life.

I love to laugh.

I am happy and content.

My body is preparing for a smooth and comfortable birth.

I trust my body to do the birth smoothly and effectively.

My baby and my body know what to do.

I am happy my baby is coming to me.

Transition to the hospital from home

Transitioning from home to the hospital can be easy.

A recent story of a HypnoBirthing mom: second time mom, first time giving HypnoBirthing birth.

She did well in class, totally hated her first birth experience in a foreign hospital, manipulated by doctors robbing her of her natural birth, and now living in the US planning on having a fun natural birth, she and her husband were attending HypnoBirthing classes and practicing at home with passion.

Her partner loved hypnosis, experiencing it and doing it to his wife, and in classroom exercises hypnotized her using the scripts handed out in class learning quickly and effectively. Mom was also very adamant about preparing for her birth, using the breathing techniques described in class and in the book by Marie Mongan HypnoBirthing the Safe and Comfortable Birth.

Having finished the classes two weeks prior to estimated date, the mom continued to practice every day. She was so well prepared that when the day came she was calm and effective.

She breathed and breathed and felt herself getting ready, dilating, thinning, opening, and when her surges started to be really close together and really hard, she waited another close to 2 hours. Then her husband suggested they drove to the hospital. And they did.

On the way to the hospital the mom located herself on the back seat. During the surges she lowered her body to the seat and breathed, concentrating on her breath, in a really focused way.

Whenever her focus wandered away, she found herself worrying if they get there on time, and she experienced discomfort sitting in the car, and then the surge would come on again, and they she concentrated on her breathing the baby down.

During one of those surges she felt that her waters streamed down the seat, and she felt that burning sensation signifying crowning. She did not believe herself: they were not anywhere near the hospital yet.

Another strong one came on and the baby's head began emerging. She told her husband to stop at the shoulder of the road.

He was in the left lane. By the time he got to stop the car, the baby was born in the back seat of it just half a mile from the hospital.

Babies always know what they are doing. This one did not want to be born in the hospital.

Mother had a roller-coaster ride during the fun birth, she said she wanted to have fun for her second birth, and there it was!

Congratulations!

Ultra-Sound NOT for My Baby

Whereas there are positive aspects of using ultra-sound techniquie in pregnancy, sometimes we agree to a routine scan without questions.

Did you know that frequent ultra-sound scannings can cause harm for your baby?

According to studies described in the book by Sarah Buckley Gentle Birth Gentle Mothering, ultrasound causes many of the possible adverse effects like miscarriage, low birth weight, premature labor, perinatal death, dyslexia, and ever ambidexterity!

In fact, the research shows that some random controlled studies more and more show consistent brain damage in babies that is caused by ultra-sound during pregnancy.

The biological effects of the ultra scanning:  The sonar rays cause the tissue to heat up from 1 to 3 degrees Fahrenheit, where bone heats more than the soft tissue, and soft tissue heats more than liquid. With specific settings of each scanner and the time in such exposure. Recent studies research the heating of the baby's developing brain tissues to such degree and is no longer considered within the parameters of standards of safety.

The second effect is cavitation, which is collapsing of small pockets of gas between the tissues caused by heating of tissues and creating of gasses, potentially toxic, mostly in the lung and bowel areas, in turn causing significant changes in prenatal and postnatal development.

I was blown away learning about such "side-effects" and still mothers; going for a scan regularly.

Doctors possibly have not read the studies, or even if they read the studies, they don't have another procedure to find out, to make sure, to feel certain, to tell you what's going on inside of you, but so what?

In one case, I am not sure that it is not the ultra-sound scanning that killed the second embrio in one of the moms, after her fertility implantation with two healthy embrios, and suddenly after three weeks and three scans one embrio dies.

A recent hypnotherapy client regressed to a womb experience, clearly described a high pitch sound bouncing off his brain, that he experienced over and over, until fast forwarded to a more pleasant experience. In hypnosis he was experiencing himself being in the womb, and upon returning to the waking state recognized that this must have been what ultra-sound was to him as a fetus.

Babies do remember.

So what's your choice now? What scans for your baby?

Watch Video What Happens During Ultra-Sound

Twins natural birth

Twin pregnancies are very happy and very tricky.

Happy because like some mothers say, "You get two for one, and be done. " Others, who like their pregnancies wish they could spread them in time so there would be more time spent being pregnant and giving birth. (I know such mother, who wishes she could somehow persuade her husband to have a fifth child.)

Tricky because as with one mom, you can't have all you want on your timing, they have their own timing. Her daughter was positioned head up on top of her brother. On her 36th week, the mom was told by the doctor that she need to have BOTH babies turned head down, otherwise it's a c-section.

Who wants a c-section??? NOBODY!

The woman has been preparing to give natural vaginal birth to her twins, took HypnoBirthing classes, practiced with her husband, loved the idea of birthing center, but opted for the hospital. So the medically manipulated birth was off the table for her.

She made a firm decision to birth naturally, as she somehow knew that she could. So she did. 

Using breathing techniques, aided by her husband and a doula,  she focused on her first baby and then second. The babies came 20 minutes apart, and she was allowed her time. 

She told about how at a time of her losing her focus a thought about the epidural came to her mind, and she kept brushing it away, and in the end she said "I really didn't need it, it would have been a weakness and a waste". She was happy and elated that her birth was natural. And she wrote to me as the whole hospital cheered for her as she finished the birth. The doctors in that hospital had NEVER SEEN A NATURAL TWIN DELIVERY.

So make up your mind before going to the hospital, so you are immovable on the idea of your birthing, then you can have real fun with it.

View the video of twin natural water birth here.

Avoid Induction

To avoid induction we do hypnosis inviting the baby to peacefully come out NOW!

A mom-to-be on her 40 weeks, called after a conversation with the doctor, who told her that next Monday she "needs" to be induced. 

I asked her what if she did not show up for the induction?

She was adamant about being compliant to her doctor. When you choose your doctor you like your doctor. It is an authority. Some people can't not comply. 

However, we are talking about YOUR experience, YOUR baby, and YOUR experience in birthing your baby. The happier the birth the happier the baby, leave alone healthier, etc. 

To create a happy, smooth, comfortable, and safe birth, the birth needs to be initiated by the baby, not the doctor.

This is why we resorted the a conversation with the baby.

Actually it was more like a conditioned invitation, because I am not messing with the Universe, who has everything on her own divine timing. Conditioning the invitation with something like "if it si for the benevolent outcome of all concerned", will get you very far.

So it did with our mom here, her baby initiated labor the same night and the day after he was born. I got a text from the father: "Mother and Baby are doing great. Thank you."

That was my thank you from the Universe. 

How to deal with a loss of baby

One of my happy moms lost her baby in a tragic accident when he was just 18 months old. How to help a devastated mother in the loss of her child?

What is there to do?

Some suggest blogging, journaling, taking a vacation, changing a job, acquire a hobby. Yes, all those are good ways to cope. 

But coping can go on for years. What to do if you want to get pregnant again and go on with your life and the grief is grabbing the best of you?

One suggestion is self-hypnosis. Get yourself a great relaxation audio and use it every day.  A  recent client-woman decided to get pregnant, committed to listening to an audio relaxation and did get pregnant. 

Regular exercise and active involvement in the life is another key bahavior helping in creating the body ready for the new pregnancy.

Now just the relaxation and the exercise may not be enough, so another suggestion is to begin a relationship with a hypnotherapist. Find an appropriately trained specialist, fertility and birthing certified, so they can help you create the life that you want. With the essential help and qualified support of the professional you will soon be on your way to happiness again. 

Begin to work diligently on the breathing patterns, forgiveness, letting go, training your mind to concentrate on the positive and absorb the behavior of how you are when your life works. Look at your partner with loving energy, instead of grieving, or blaming, the energy of lack. Become a generous person you are again, loving yourself, nurturing your body, grateful for the life that you have and the love that is coming your way.

How to Do research About Important Information for Your Baby Birth

A really easy way to start thinking about the way you want to give birth to your baby is to research lots of stuff on the internet. One of my HypnoBirthing couples (from the HypnoBirthing class in March 2009) allocated 2 hours each evening when the both of them were totally consumed by the amount of information. To research the birthing information correctly you must create a list of things that interest you in birthing your baby.

For example, you want to give birth painlessly, and naturally. You might come up with a series of trainings, books, and techniques for painless natural childbirth. One of my student moms actually mentioned that she wants a bit of discomfort, so she could feel her body, baby moving down the path and the chance to use the techniques that she learned in her hypnosis class.

Secondly, you might want to research about various birthing practitioners. Doulas, midwives, doctors, nurses. To find out what they do, so you can choose being informed. There is nothing worse than making a decision about something important like.... birthing your baby, and not knowing what the options are.

Many mothers come to my class uninformed about child birth, about what hospital procedures are, what doulas do why they need them and what midwives are for. They believe that their doctor will stay with them through the hours of labor and then wave a magic wand and the baby is born.

It is not so. Your own participation is important.

A good start is to read a good HypnoBirthing book, by Marie Mongan. Mongan is the creator of the HypnoBirthing theory and the series of curriculum standard classes that moms and dads take in order to prepare for the birth.

If you chose a hospital birth you must decide if you want medicated birth or normal birth and from this point direct your research further.

A student mom asked me what she needs to do, on her 29th week of pregnancy, if after reading the hypnobirhting book she found out that her doctor is not a natural birth friendly. I can't advise on that! She decided to stay in line with the hypnosis techniques for birth she was learning and she decided to ditch the doctor and find another hospital to birth her baby in. I went out to communicate on the chat-line for midwives and doulas to help her locate an available midwife and doula. We'll update on this next week.

So you don't find yourself in a position where you are unsure on how you doctor feels about your wish to birth, research early.